Judy’s story is a tragic example of how the abortion industry manipulates society into thinking there is nothing wrong with aborting an unborn baby.
Her story, as told in the New Zealand news outlet Stuff, is heartbreaking, not only because she aborted six of her unborn babies, but also because she appears to be suppressing deep suffering with the thought that her abortions were “the right thing” to do.
Judy, 44, not her real name, shared her story as the New Zealand parliament debates a radical pro-abortion bill that would allow unborn babies to be aborted for basically any reason up to birth.
Though the news outlet described Judy as being “plagued” by her abortions, she claimed the bill would help women like her.
She aborted her first unborn baby at age 23 when she was married but not using birth control, according to the report. At the time, she said her relationship with her husband was rocky, and they struggled financially.
“I was completely terrified. I didn’t know what was going to happen and it wasn’t a situation that I wanted, but I knew that I didn’t want it inside of me,” she remembered.
Judy convinced herself that she could not provide a good life for her baby, so she chose to abort her child instead.
“I spent the whole day there being asked the same question in a different way by two consultants, who would ultimately decide my own fate,” she said. “I understand why they do that – make you wait – it’s to give you a chance to back out. It gave me time to think about what I was about to do… but I knew it was the right choice.”
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About a year later, she said she became pregnant again, and again, she admitted that she was not using birth control consistently.
“That was the one that hit me. I hated myself for a long time. I had killed another baby… so I took more drugs and alcohol to drown out the pain,” Judy continued.
This is not untypical for post-abortive women. Multiple studies have shown an increased risk of mental health problems, substance abuse and suicide after an abortion. These are rooted in the fact that an abortion kills an innocent human being, the woman’s own child. But the abortion industry encourages women to deny this reality and, in doing so, de-legitimizes their pain.
Judy had four more abortions.
She used birth control, first an IUD then the Depo Provera Injection, but became pregnant anyway, according to the report.
At one point, she said she did consider making an adoption plan instead of having an abortion, but she convinced herself that it would be easier to end her baby’s life than give her child a loving home with another family.
“I just couldn’t. I couldn’t look after anymore kids at the time. I was struggling enough to give the ones I had the life they deserved,” she said.
The report suggests that Judy still struggles with her abortions, though she did not admit that her pain is legitimate and the root of her pain is her decision to end her babies’ lives.
“That’s where I buried my fifth and sixth termination,” she told the news outlet, pointing to a spot in her back yard. She said she also named her sixth aborted baby Delilah.
“I wish I had buried my other terminations. It made me feel a lot more at ease,” Judy said.
Abortion is not normal. It is not good, and it does not help women. Yet, many post-abortive women bury their grief and regret deep inside because the abortion industry tells them that there is nothing to be sad about. It’s just a blob of cells. It wasn’t really a baby yet. And women should be grateful that they can go on with the life they had planned without a child in tow.
But this is not reality. Many women do suffer intensely after aborting their babies. Innately, they know that their abortion destroyed a life. Women deserve to know that their grief is legitimate, and they can find healing and forgiveness. Many pro-life charities provide compassionate, non-judgmental post-abortion programs to help women work through their pain, rather than deny it. They provide hope by reassuring women that their baby had value and their grief is real and normal. And they do not have to live with that pain forever.