For nearly five decades, abortion activists have tried and largely failed to convince society that abortion is a good thing for women.
But they are not giving up. Abortion activists are urging women to tell their abortion-positive stories again, after the November elections brought new pro-life leaders to Congress and the White House.
Over the weekend, The Huffington Post contributor Sandy Rosenblatt wrote a column giving five reasons why women should tell their abortion-positive stories.
“… it’s our turn to share our stories,” she wrote. “Our turn to be the voice of our generation, as well as the next one. It’s our turn to be loud and not back down. It’s our responsibility to ensure we keep the right to our bodies. Our responsibility to ensure our children have the right to theirs.”
She began with her own. Rosenblatt aborted her unborn child “many years ago” after deciding that she never wanted to have children of her own. She said she was on birth control and even took the morning after pill, but she still got pregnant.
Rosenblatt tried to normalize her abortion by saying she had it as early as she could, when “the group of cells forming in my uterus were so small they couldn’t even be seen.” She said she felt relieved afterward.
She then gave women five reasons why they should share their stories publicly, too.
First, it’s more common than you think, and, second, talking about it reduces shame.
“Most people don’t talk about it. Women hide it, keep it a secret,” she wrote.
Rosenblatt made a good point that women often keep their thoughts and emotions about their abortions buried deep inside them. But she was wrong to blame pro-lifers for the shame women often feel. The pain and regret of abortion comes from what the abortion is – the killing of a unique, living human being, the woman’s own child.
Often in urging women to share their abortion-positive stories, abortion activists leave women feeling that the pain of their own abortions is not normal or legitimate. And it encourages them to bury their pain even deeper, rather than seek healing and allow themselves to grieve their unborn child.
Many other women who share their abortion stories do so because their experience was extremely painful, and they want to encourage other women to make better choices for their babies and themselves. Yet, abortion activists often try to silence these women.
Third, not every child gets adopted.
Rosenblatt mentioned a friend who was in foster care through age 18 and never was adopted. In essence, she used adoption to argue that abortion is OK because every child should be a wanted child and not all are.
But this is a dangerous argument that bases human worth on other people’s feelings and views. The truth is that a child is a valuable human being, no matter what their parents think of them.
Every child should feel wanted, and pro-life families are doing a lot by adopting children with special needs and those in foster care. But wantedness does not determine a person’s worth outside the womb, and it shouldn’t inside either.
Fourth, states are prohibiting bills to make it difficult to have access to safe abortions.
Rosenblatt attacked pro-life Vice President Mike Pence for encouraging moms to consider adoption rather than abortion. She also criticized his efforts as governor of Indiana to require that aborted babies’ be given a dignified burial, rather than sold or used for research.
“According to U.S. law, fetuses are not people,” Rosenblatt argued. “… The more we keep quiet about having an abortion, the more these lawmakers will try and put laws into place that put everything and everyone before a woman.”
That may be the current law, but the law is wrong. Laws and courts have been wrong in the past about other groups of people, too; and human rights advocates have worked to change them, just as the pro-life movement is working to change abortion laws today. Every human life deserves to be protected, no matter what their age or abilities, race or gender or nationality.
Fifth, making abortions difficult or illegal does not stop them from happening.
It’s ironic how Rosenblatt made her point here: “According to statistics from the NIH, 68,000 women die annually worldwide from illegal abortions. 68,000 human beings.”
Rosenblatt is right to want to prevent these women’s abortion deaths – but why does she not want to prevent all abortion deaths?
World-wide estimates of abortions each year are somewhere around 50 million per year. That’s 50 million unborn babies who are dead, along with 68,000 of their mothers (if these statistics are accurate). Pro-lifers want to prevent both these deaths, not just one.
Many women seek abortions out of desperation. They are poor or abused or simply afraid. Yet, modern society pushes women toward abortion as if it was their best option, rather than addressing the root cause of the woman’s problems.
Women and babies both deserve our support so that back-alley abortions are unthinkable. Women deserve to know that they have society’s support to carry their children and raise them. Society is not failing women by restricting abortion, it’s failing women by pushing them toward abortion, rather than offering to help them and their families.
Abortion will never be normal to society because killing an innocent human being is not normal or good. And no amount of story-telling will change that.