When Australian rugby star Darius Boyd’s wife lost both her grandmother and her unborn child last year, she was devastated.
According to the Daily Mail, Kayla Boyd said she felt so emotionally scarred by her grandmother’s death and her unborn baby’s miscarriage that the news of another pregnancy three months later prompted her to immediately seek an abortion.
“I didn’t want to get attached to the fact that I could have another baby and then I could miscarry again,” she told the Courier Mail. “It would have affected our marriage, it would have been very stressful and hard.”
Boyd miscarried one unborn child in April, then aborted another one in August of 2016, according to the report. There are no indications in the reports that there was anything wrong with her health or her second unborn child’s, no threat of another miscarriage that prompted her to abort the child.
Here’s more from the Daily Mail:
When she learnt of her pregnancy, Boyd said she was overcome by a feeling of self-doubt and that was what ultimately lead her to make the tough decision to abort the fetus.
‘I felt like that’s what i had to do. The first time (I was pregnant) I didn’t feel lost, I didn’t feel scared or confused and i really felt that way this time,’ she said.
While Boyd said the decision caused her enormous emotional pain, she said she felt it was the right one and simply wanted to move forward from her experiences.
She also admitted her story would be judged by a lot of women but appreciated everyone was entitled to their opinion.
The young mother said she and her husband Darius still wanted to have three children together, and would try for their second child in a year’s time.
She and her husband also have a 1-year-old daughter together.
How Boyd thought aborting her unborn child would save her from suffering is both puzzling and deeply concerning. According to countless women’s accounts, their abortions were among the most heartbreaking and painful experiences of their lives. Many women have been damaged emotionally as a result of their unborn child’s abortion death, others physically.
Tammy Romo-Alcala, who had an abortion in Texas more than two decades ago, said she never would have gone through with it if she had truly understood what an abortion was. For years afterward, she said she struggled with depression and alcohol abuse; and at 28, she had to have a hysterectomy.
Another woman, Nona Ellington, said she had five miscarriages after aborting her unborn child. She said her abortion “ruined any chance of giving birth” to future children.
One also has to wonder if Boyd is aware of the studies linking abortion to increased risk of future miscarriages and preterm birth. A study published in 2006 in the British Journal of Gynecology found that women who had an abortion experienced a 60-percent higher risk of having a miscarriage in a future pregnancy.
Boyd’s not wanting to lose another child to a miscarriage is understandable. Just like when a born child dies, an unborn child’s death often is devastating to the parents. Boyd was not wrong for wanting to avoid more pain and grief, but, in choosing abortion, she opened up the possibility of potentially hurting herself and her family even more.
Moreover, she did not avoid losing her unborn child; she chose to lose it, to have the child aborted. Her child was a unique, individual human being who deserved a right to life. That child may have lived and brought her and her family unexpected joy in the midst of their grief. But Boyd eliminated that possibility when she chose abortion.