Woman Who Doesn’t Want to be a Parent Aborted Her Baby: “It Was the Kindest Thing I Could Do”

National   |   Micaiah Bilger   |   Apr 1, 2016   |   11:45AM   |   Washington, DC

Rose Miller gives one simple reason for having an abortion: She does not want to be a parent.

Writing for Bustle, Miller shared her story in reaction to the recent outrage over Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump’s statement about punishing women for abortions when they become illegal again. After facing a harsh backlash from pro-life and pro-abortion groups alike, Trump took back his original statement and said he believes abortion doctors should be punished, not women.

But that hasn’t stopped abortion activists from jumping all over Trump’s original remarks and trying to misrepresent the entire pro-life movement.

Miller (if that is her real name. She also appears to write for Bustle under the name Gabrielle Moss, though why she would use two different pen names on the same website is bizarre) explained why she chose to have an abortion:

Like one in three American women, I have had an abortion. I had a medical abortion — aka took “the abortion pill” — in 2006, and contrary to what any anti-abortion activist might tell you, it was not a day at the spa. It was hours of sweating, bleeding, and cramping alone in my apartment, which was, you’ll be shocked to hear, really unpleasant and something of a punishment in and of itself. But it was what I was willing to endure in order to not have a child — then, or ever. I have no plans of ever becoming a parent because I’m neither emotionally nor financially stable, and I just don’t think I have the right temperament for it. The kindest thing I could do for any theoretical child of mine was prevent it from being born to me. And no, I haven’t regretted my decision to have an abortion or forgo parenthood for a minute.



In the decade since I had an abortion, every time abortion rights come under attack — which is often; in 2013 alone, 22 states enacted 70 new provisions to restrict abortion access — I ask myself: would I still get an abortion if I got pregnant, even in the face of all the added restrictions? Would I drive 20 hours, or risk losing my job, or even undergo a risky or illegal procedure if abortion was outlawed? And the answer is always: yes. If I became accidentally pregnant again, I would do absolutely anything to get an abortion.

It’s apparent that Miller or Moss or who ever she really is has no clue about the pro-life movement. Pro-lifers do not described abortions, chemical or surgical, as a “day at the spa,” quite the opposite in fact. Abby Johnson, a Planned Parenthood director who later became pro-life, said the abortion business was the one that “kept me in the dark” when she had a medical abortion. She was told that her abortion would be “nothing worse than a heavy period” but during the actual experience, the pain and bleeding were so bad that she thought she might die.

Pro-lifers work to inform women about how horribly painful and dangerous abortions can be to women, not to mention their unborn child. According to the FDA, at least 14 women have died from medical abortions, and more than 2,207 more have been injured. These are some of the reasons why pro-lifers work to pass informed consent laws to ensure that women are fully informed about their options.

It’s tragic that Miller and abortion activists like her fail to see the real heart of the pro-life movement, which is to value every human life, born and unborn. Pro-lifers are eager to help women and their babies through difficult circumstances, offering emotional and material assistance in difficult times. Pro-lifers do not want women to experience the pain of abortion any more than they want unborn babies to. Pro-lifers want to empower women to make the best decisions for themselves and their families.

But because abortion activists like Miller choose to intentionally misrepresent pro-lifers rather than learn to understand them, they miss out on the love and compassion and support that pro-lifers are ready and willing to offer; and more importantly, by choosing abortion, they miss out on the opportunity to experience love with their child.