How to Kill Your Baby? Web Site Offers “20 Tips for Your First Abortion”

Opinion   |   Micaiah Bilger   |   Feb 17, 2016   |   5:57PM   |   Washington, DC

The internet is full of advice columns on a wealth of topics, and the abortion issue is no exception.

On Feb. 1, the website Paper Darts published a nervy piece that advertises “20 Tips for Your First Abortion” as if it was nothing more than a teeth cleaning (tip #4). The website is dedicated to publishing short compositions and art while “staying true to our badass feminist roots.” The “20 Tips” article is in the “nonfiction” category.

Author Madeline Roe (a pen name based on the infamous abortion case, possibly?) offers a few pieces of good advice – tell a friend, a family member or someone who will support you (tip #2) – but most of her tips are pretty awful when you realize that they are about killing an innocent, living baby.

Roe doesn’t try to be neutral or encourage women to learn all the facts before making a decision. She assumes that women’s minds are already made up. Tip #3 tells women to “Avoid any website that uses the word ‘life.’ They will not help you. Also avoid all images. All of them. … Read medical articles. Know your options.”

The contradiction is evident. Women deserve to know only the options that abortion supporters like Roe want them to know. Women should not look for images online when considering an abortion because they might see one that shows the humanity of the unborn child or the gruesomeness of abortion. Women should avoid pro-life websites because they might persuade her to change her mind.

Some of Roe’s other tips are just crass.

Tip #4 encourages first-timers to “stay busy” and “drink heavily” in the days before their abortions.That way they won’t have to think about what they’re about to do.

Tip #7 tells women to feel better about their abortions by comparing the price of an abortion to the cost of raising a child – and Beyonce concert tickets.

Tip # 12 reads: “You know the medium-sized metal bowl you use to mix pancake batter? The bowl your parents stored Halloween candy in? That bowl will also be in the room. It is for exactly what you think it is for.” Her dead baby.

Roe offers one last piece of advice after the abortion: “Go home. Relax. Eat a big meal. Process your emotions. Take a shower. Talk with your friends. Cry with your friends. Make inappropriate jokes about how you were ‘killin’ it’ today and laugh with your friends. Eat a pound of chocolate. Listen to some Bon Iver. Take aspirin. Listen to some ABBA. Dance with Miss Poke. Watch a movie. Take your antibiotics. Buy a new dress off Zappos. Use a heating pad. Call your mom. Reread a book from your teenage years. Do whatever you want. Maybe make a list of all the things you learned.”

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In this last tip, Roe hints at the reality of what abortion is, “killin’” an unborn baby, but she does not mention how women should think seriously about the decision — quite the opposite, in fact (see tip #4). Or how an abortion is irreversible once it’s done. Or how many women struggle with regret after their abortions. She just assumes that women want abortions. In reality, that’s not the case at all.

Roe was right about one thing: Women need to know that they are not alone. Tragically, though, Roe and other abortion activists do not trust women to handle all the facts about abortion.

Women deserve to know that people are willing to help them and their babies through the tough times. They deserve to know that their unborn baby’s heart started beating just 18 days after conception. They deserve to know that material and financial support is available to help them and their babies. It’s these facts that often make a difference to expecting mothers who are considering abortion. It’s these facts that often encourage women to choose life. Unfortunately, none of those make Roe’s list.