Destiny Herndon-Delarosa started the group New Wave Feminists to take back feminism from the abortion advocates and work to protect the rights of babies and their mothers.
She also began it for her son.
Herndon-Delarosa recently posted a story on her group’s Facebook page about how her teen pregnancy and her son changed her life.
“The panic is temporary. The fear is temporary. The crisis is temporary. The days when you wake up thinking ‘how did I make such a huge mistake’ are so few in retrospect,” Herndon-Delarosa began the post. “You have nine months for all that, but then it gets good. Still difficult, don’t get me wrong, but so so good…”
In the post, she encouraged other pregnant women in crisis to reject abortion and look ahead because better days will come.
Her son turned 15 on Dec. 13, and he is just one year younger than Herndon-Delarosa was when she got pregnant. She wrote:
He’s the other half to all my inside jokes. He’s the best person I’ve ever known. He’s the one who binge watches Doctor Who with me and teaches me about robots and video games. He’s the reason I started New Wave Feminists. He’s the owner of a pure heart, swiper of my favorite CDs, and contributor of copious amounts of laundry. He’s the kid who still has me hanging around skateparks a decade and a half later. He’s often my (much needed) filter, because he’s a stereotypical naturally mature firstborn, and the last one to ever let me down. He’s the kid that I didn’t really raise at all, but instead grew up alongside. He’s my heart and soul.
I didn’t know it at the time, but choosing life for him would give me a life that I wouldn’t trade for the world.
See, you don’t realize how temporary the “crisis” is when it’s consuming your every waking moment, but as soon as you get beyond that… Such beauty can be born from that which we never planned.
Fear is temporary, but the courage you gain facing it lasts forever. Panic subsides, but the strength you find in the midst of the crisis endures. Perhaps the most amazing thing though is how the love you feel for this new life, whether it was intended or not, suddenly turns a “mistake” into a miracle.
I didn’t save my son by “choosing life.” He saved me.
Because of her son, Herndon-Delarosa said she began New Wave Feminism, which works to encourage and support women to choose life, just as the early feminists did. Her story shows what the early feminists taught, that women and their babies need help in times of crisis. Abortion is never the solution to a crisis, rather it’s often evidence of a bigger problem.
Maddie H. Brinckerhoff, an early feminist and popular lecturer, wrote for the feminist newspaper The Revolution, “When a man steals to satisfy hunger, we may safely conclude that there is something wrong in society – so when a woman destroys the life of her unborn child, it is an evidence that either by education or circumstances she has been greatly wronged.”
Herndon-Delarosa bravely pushed through the crisis, rejected abortion and found true joy in the life of her son. Now she is helping others do the same.