Woman Says Her Husband is Demanding She Get an Abortion, Says it Would “Kill Him” if She Refuses

International   |   Micaiah Bilger   |   Dec 2, 2015   |   11:11AM   |   Washington, DC

A conflicted mother recently turned to the internet for advice after her husband began pressuring her to abort their unborn child.

The 40-year-old woman posted her story to Reddit on Monday, explaining that she and her husband have two teenage children and he does not want another one, according to the website Madame Noire.

“Jill” said she and her husband were almost ready to “pursue things that they were previously unable to because they have been busy raising kids” when they discovered that they were pregnant. Despite the change in plans, Jill said she wants their baby, but she is considering abortion because of her husband’s demands.

The woman wrote:

… my husband absolutely does not want to have another child and has told me I need to abort the baby. The reason why he is against having this child is because he doesn’t want to start over again. He sees the light at the end of the tunnel and wants to spend our time and money on ourselves and not on raising another child.

… I think part of me hesitates because our other two children have been two of the greatest parts of my life. They have added so much happiness, and I feel like this child would do the same. Obviously, that’s not necessarily guaranteed (and I know about the risks to mother and child for pregnancies at my age), but I can’t help but think that in some way this was meant to happen.

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I have talked with my husband about all of this, but he is still all but demanding I abort our child. Initially, it was only a suggestion, but last night he went so far as to suggest that I would be killing him by choosing to have this child. I’m not even sure what this means.

I’m just not sure what to do here. Logically, I think the best thing to do may be to have the abortion. Money (we can afford it), time, family dynamics all say to do it. I’m not even sure I am up for the challenge. I do worry that maybe I can’t do this (parenting a young child) anymore, but my heart says that it would be a mistake for me to terminate the pregnancy. I’m also worried that even if I do go through with it I may end up resenting my husband in the future. I could use some help. I’m just not sure how to make this decision, and if I do decide to keep it, how to help my husband come to terms with that.

Ironically, while Jill’s husband says it would “kill” him if she doesn’t have an abortion, he ignores how the abortion would kill his own child.

Tragically, Jill is not alone. LifeNews has reported numerous stories of women who have faced pressure or coercion to abort their babies by a husband or partner. Multiple studies indicate that at least one-half of all women who undergo abortions in the United States were coerced to do so against their wishes.