Woman Writes Advice Columnist on How to Keep Her Abortion Secret From Her Husband

National   |   Sarah Zagorski   |   Oct 16, 2015   |   10:10AM   |   Washington, DC

On October 6th, Slate advice columnist Emily Yoffe responded to a woman’s admission that she had a secret abortion after telling her husband she was willing to have children.

The woman, known as “Hubby Doesn’t Know,” told Yoffe the following about her dilemma: “I’ve been married to a great guy for almost three years now. The only problem is that he really wants kids, and I have no desire to put my body through that. A few months ago he wanted to start trying for kids. I agreed, thinking that I could do it for him, but when I realized I was pregnant, I panicked and got an abortion.”

Now the woman’s concerned that her husband will find out about her abortion. She said, “My husband is starting to worry that we haven’t had any luck and wants to start doing fertility tests. I’m worried that seeing doctors will cause my secret to come out and my husband will leave me. What do I do?”

Although Yoffe is pro-abortion, she’s pretty shocked that the woman deceived her husband and aborted their baby after agreeing to have a child. She writes:

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“You now realize you have no intention of fulfilling your husband’s desire for a child. But instead of telling him, you secretly aborted a fetus you had agreed to conceive. That speaks to a level of deceit that sounds lethal to a marriage.”

Then Yoffe tells the woman that she should be honest with her husband instead of lying and pursuing fertility treatments. She said, “I don’t know if you discussed the having children issue before you got married, but an urgent life goal for him is to become a father. Your urgent life goal is to not become a mother. You need to face this forthrightly, and if it ends your marriage, that will give you each the opportunity to find more compatible partners.”

In a second letter from a reader, Yoffe reveals her pro-abortion views by advising a 41-year-old woman to consider using the abortion drug mifepristone. The woman, known as Too Tired and Too Old, wrote Yoffe asking for advice regarding her unplanned third pregnancy. The woman explains that her husband is supportive but she’s concerned that they can’t handle a newborn and is considering abortion.

She said, “I have always been a very liberal person, believed in a woman’s right to choose, and even volunteered at Planned Parenthood in my college days. The thought of having a baby makes me want to cry; the thought of having an abortion makes me want to cry. I know that no one else can figure this out for me—but I need help on how to think about it and make the best choice.”

Instead of encouraging the woman to choose life for her baby, Yoffe informs her that she can obtain the deadly RU-486 abortion regimen. As LifeNews previously reported, the abortion drug has claimed over two million pre-born lives since its approval in 2000. Although some argue that medication abortion is completely safe for women, research and case studies have proven otherwise.

For example, in the United States, the FDA has documented 2,207 adverse events in the women who have had medical abortions, including 14 deaths, 612 hospitalizations, 339 cases where blood loss was so great the woman needed a transfusion, 256 infections and 58 ectopic pregnancies.  Of the women who’ve died due to medication abortion, some suffered bacterial infections, hemorrhaging to death, ruptured ectopic pregnancy and massive heart attacks.