She Left the Clinic After Rejecting an Abortion to Find Her Boyfriend Had Abandoned Her

National   |   Sarah Zagorski   |   Oct 9, 2015   |   9:35AM   |   College Park, MD

Pro-life volunteers in College Park, Maryland shared a story about women they encountered outside abortion facilities during their 40 Days for Life campaign.

The 40 Days for Life volunteers mentioned that this wasn’t the first time they encountered abandoned women at abortion facilities. A pro-life counselor shared that she met a young woman who was completely alone during and after her abortion. She explained that the woman was waiting for a ride outside the abortion clinic in the pouring rain.

The volunteer described what she saw like this: “The leaky roof over [the woman] did not provide her enough shelter and she was completely wet. She only wore a cotton hoodie. Not many believe they will be locked out by the clinic when business is over. She seemed scared. I stayed with her for another hour, offering her a phone call, a taxi, a ride in my car, a meal, some tea or hot coffee, an umbrella. She refused. I stayed with her for one hour until her ride came.”

Unfortunately, sometimes women believe abortion can save the relationship they have with their baby’s father. However, studies show that this is unlikely and that abortion actually destroys romantic relationships. According to Dr. Theresa Karminski Burke, abortion “breeds anger, resentment, and bitterness toward the partner who was not supportive or who ignored their partner’s desire to keep the baby.”


Dr. Burke is the director of the Center for Post-Abortion Healing and author of Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion. She explained that relationships usually fall apart after abortion, and in cases where this doesn’t happen the relationships are unhealthy because the partners are attached to each other by their mutual grief.

She said, “Many relationships between couples come apart shortly after an abortion. Others survive only because the partners are still bound together by grief. These relationships often turn into prolonged, mutually destructive mourning rituals.” Dr. Burke added, “Even married couples are often driven apart by an abortion unless they can find a way to complete the grieving process together.”

Additionally, there are instances where men have told their partners they would leave or become violent if they didn’t have an abortion. For example, a woman in England recently said her boyfriend told her he was going to kill himself if she didn’t abort their twins.

As LifeNews previously reported, 31-year-old Helen Dunn claimed that her ex-boyfriend manipulated her into aborting their babies and then dumped her. The father, Darren Heath, was a police officer for the Gloucestershire Constabulary and told his former girlfriend that if she didn’t abort their babies he would kill himself. Dunn shared with the Daily Mail more about her relationship with Heath.

She said, “Being a police officer meant I dropped my guard quicker than I usually would have done as I thought I could trust him – I couldn’t have been more wrong. When he told me to terminate the pregnancy, I was heartbroken it was an option I would’ve never considered. He threatened to kill himself if I didn’t go through with the abortion, I was distraught. When I went to the clinic I was so scared and alone after he kept failing to turn up to appointments. The doctor told me I was having twins and I told Darren there was no way I could go through with an abortion.”

However, Heath continued pressuring her into having the abortion and told her his life would not be worth living if she had the twins. He drove her to the abortion facility during one of his shifts, watched as she took the abortion pills and then dumped her. Dunn explained, “We were using contraception so the pregnancy wasn’t planned but as soon as I told him. He made me feel like I was worthless and just went on and on about how he wouldn’t support us and that it was the wrong time for us. It was the biggest mistake of my life but he wouldn’t drop it until eventually I was weak enough and gave in.”