In the United Kingdom, 25-year-old Thea De Gallier shared that she had no regrets about her abortion and even casually texted her ex-boyfriend about the procedure after it was over. She also explained to the Daily Mail that she hated that her friends would offer their sympathies if she told them about her decision.
She said, “…Why is it still tacitly expected that I’ll feel any regret? If I disclose to friends that I’ve had an abortion, their reaction is invariably to offer their sympathies. While I appreciate the gesture, I’m not sure how to feel about the assumption that I’m somehow struggling with the experience.”
At the time of Gallier’s abortion, she was nine-weeks pregnant and likely had a suction aspiration abortion that used a machine 29-times more powerful than a household vacuum cleaner to remove the unborn child. During this type of abortion procedure, the baby is dislodged and sucked into a tube, either whole or in pieces. Then, as we learned from former Planned Parenthood Director, Abby Johnson, after the abortion a staff member of the facility must review the parts of the baby removed by the vacuum system to ensure that all parts of the baby were indeed removed from the mother’s womb.
Later in Gallier’s article, she explained that she appreciated that the website Women on Web expressed that many women feel a sense of relief after their abortions. She said, “The website womenonweb.org, a network where women who have had abortions, or are planning to have one, can find support and information, states that ‘most women do not need psychological help after an abortion’. And, while it acknowledges that every woman reacts differently, it also points out that ‘most women feel a sense of relief that they have made the best decision under the circumstances’.”
Although it is true that some women feel initial relief after having an abortion, the majority later comes to regret their decision and deal with countless complications.
As LifeNews previously reported, during the first six months after an early abortion (12 weeks or less), a woman has double the risk of death compared to giving birth; and during the first year following a late abortion (after 12 weeks) a woman has over three times the risk of death compared to giving birth. Additionally, since abortion complications are largely underreported, there is no way for data to accurately show information concerning the safety of abortion compared to childbirth.
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When I came round after the termination, mercifully nausea-free, I felt utterly liberated. I sent my ex-boyfriend a text that simply read ‘it’s done’, and was amazed that the heavy biliousness that had plagued me for the last few weeks had lifted instantly.
One woman on the Whisper app says that she went to a nightclub on the same day as her termination. While I wasn’t vocally celebrating, I understand her desire to get straight back to normal and embrace her freedom. After my procedure, I felt excited about the future for the first time since finding out I was pregnant. I threw myself back into work, moved into a nicer flat and, after a few months, started dating again. Almost a year on, I haven’t felt any regret or sadness. The only emotion I occasionally feel is a wave of relief that I don’t now have a three-month-old child.
Apart from that relief, I haven’t ever wondered what my life would be like if I’d had a baby. Because I was so set on my decision from the start, it was never a scenario that needed any consideration, and I still feel that being a parent would only have changed my life for the worse. Perhaps that’s the reason I rarely, if ever, think about the abortion now; it certainly doesn’t stand out in my memory as a particularly traumatic event. Most of the time, there’s no need to talk about it, but if the subject arises with friends, I have no issue discussing it.
People’s default reaction to finding out I had an abortion is to say how sorry they are that I had to go through it, before asking if I ever considered continuing the pregnancy. When I explain my feelings, I’m invariably met with understanding, and a good few of my friends have said they would have felt the same in my position.