Sibling of Baby Killed in Abortion: “I Burst Into Tears About My Lost Brother”

National   |   Steven Ertelt   |   Feb 5, 2015   |   3:55PM   |   Washington, DC

Not only does abortion kill unborn children, but it leaves lasting emotional scars for women and even siblings of those who are aborted. Sarah Terzo profiles one such sibling of an abortion baby.

“When I was 18 my mother told me about her abortion… I was aghast, and said something cruel to her like, “how could you do something so terrible?” We let it drop and I forgot about it. But I had not really forgotten. I didn’t think about it consciously for years… Suddenly I found myself thinking about my little brother! I became disoriented and lost control of the car for a moment as I burst into tears having lost him. I was astounded by my reaction, but I couldn’t shake the sadness and longing to have known him.”

sadwoman19Torre-Bueno A. Peace after Abortion (San Diego, California: Pimpernel Press, 1997) 70 – 71 from

Elizabeth Ring-Cassidy and Ian Gentles. Women’s Health after Abortion: The Medical and Psychological Evidence Second Edition (Toronto, Canada: The deVeber Institute for Bioethics and Social Research, 2003)

Terzo also profiled an abortion clinic worker who admitted that women feel tremendous guilt and shame following an abortion:

From a clinic worker:

“I’ve taken up to one hour and a half if the patient needs it – the people at the front desk don’t love it if I do that too often, but if I have to, I do. I just had a patient today that took a really long time. It was a post abortion – she was crying, feeling really guilty. The doctor really scared her; I had to act as her advocate.”

Carole Joffe The Regulation of Sexuality: Experiences of Family-Planning Workers (Philadelphia: Temple University Press, 1986) 86

In actuality, most clinics either offer no counseling or counseling that consists only of a short session of telling a group of women about the abortion process (not in too much detail of course) and offering to answer questions. Even in cases where clinic workers want to give more counseling, there is pressure on them to make it short.

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Some clinics do offer post-abortion counseling. This woman was obviously very troubled by her abortion, feeling guilty and upset. I wonder what the counselor told her? probably, like most pro-abortion counselors, she was told that aborting her baby was perfectly fine and she should not feel guilty.

Perhaps she should have gotten more in depth counseling BEFORE her abortion, not after the fact.