UPDATE 11/25/14: We’re sad to report that Aaron has passed away. Our thoughts and prayers are with Nora, their child and their friends and family.
Aaron and Nora met in 2010 and like most people who fall in love, they were head over heels for each other. The next year, Aaron suffered a seizure at work which led to a very grim diagnosis: stage four brain cancer.
Although a large portion of the tumor was a Grade 2, which is usually classified as benign, a portion of it was Grade 4 glioblastoma—the same kind of cancer as Brittany Maynard.
However, despite his illness, their lives went on. Aaron and Nora wed, they had a baby and spent endless time together. For a while his health was looking better, but in 2013 tumors reappeared and his health quickly took a turn for the worse. And according to Nora, now they are approaching the end of their road. She said, “I want to be clear as a bell with everyone: he is dying.”
Nora explains on her blog, My Husbands Tumor, more about their journey with cancer.
She writes, “Because of his grace, we were able to spend the past three years not just being alive, but living. We still went to work and paid our bills. We raised our son and cooked dinner (okay, we ordered in). We worked on our house and watched a ton of movies. We traveled, we went to shows (so many shows). We had a child and lost a child and buried my father, together.” She also says their story isn’t a cancer story; instead “it’s a love story, with some cancer.”
Currently, their family is doing their best to prepare for the days to come and doctors are talking about hospice care. Nora is preparing to plan a funeral and raise her son, Ralph, alone. But as painful as their days are, she is still giving updates on Aaron and praising him for his courage.
She writes, ““Everyone wants to see him. I get it. I do. And if it were really my choice I’d be like oh yeah, come on in, say good bye! But, he just doesn’t want to. It didn’t really make sense to me at first, but now I get it. No matter how many people may surround you, death is a solitary journey. In the past few days, I have seen the man who has walked beside me for four years slowly drift onto his own path, where I cannot follow. I know, though, that when it is my turn, I’ll recognize the footprints he left for me, and I won’t feel alone and I won’t feel afraid.
Aaron is not afraid.
The end of life is important, but if you have lived well, it is no more or less important than the beginning of your life, or the middle.”
To learn more about Aaron and Nora’s story watch the video below.