Mother of Twins: My Daughter With Spina Bifida is No Less a Person Than the Other

National   |   Kristi Burton Brown   |   Nov 4, 2014   |   1:15PM   |   Washington, DC

(LiveActionNews) — Sarah Sweatt Orsborn, the mother of twin three-year-old girls – one with Spina Bifida – has spoken out about how little Claire’s defect does not affect her humanity.

She writes (emphasis mine):

“I wish I could show…a picture of my beautiful Claire, with her loopy blonde curls and deep belly laugh. Spina Bifida is part of her, always has been, and always will be, but it is not all of her.

More than anything, I want Claire — and you — to know that disabilities like Spina Bifida are just another way of being a person in the world. Claire is whole and complete, just as she is. Her life is not tragic. She’s not fighting Spina Bifida because she’s not in a battle against the body she has always had. Every day is not a struggle. Every achievement is not a victory struck against Spina Bifida, and every setback is not a cause for pity. She’s just a little girl, learning to navigate the world in the only body she’s ever known, testing out the limits of her potential just like anyone else.”

spinabifida3Orsborn shares scary moments in her journey with Spina Bifida. She shares the problems people with this defect may encounter, but she also shares the beautiful moments and how modern medicine has advanced incredibly.

Children born with Spina Bifida today have incredible chances, opportunities, and advanced medical help to live wonderful lives. Their value would be the same no matter the quality of their lives, but parents surely need to hear the hope and possibilities that Orsborn communicates so well. Whether the reality is better or worse than the doctors’ predictions, there is always hope.

“We’ve all come a long way since that dark day in a dim ultrasound room when we thought we were getting the worst news of our lives. Now we know what Spina Bifida looks like, and it turns out she’s beautiful. There’s really no telling what she’ll do someday, and I’d never bet against her.”

Orsborn has taken quite a bit of time to shine light on the hopeful realities of people born with Spina Bifida and other defects. In one article, Orsborn reveals that she herself has a heart defect. In another, she affirms the personhood of people like her daughter Claire:

“Our kids are KIDS, first and foremost. They’re people, human beings, whose value lies simply in the fact of their personhood, not in milestones or hurdles overcome. …

To borrow a phrase that I learned from Sesame Street*: having spina bifida is normal and natural and fine for my daughter. … I want her to have the beautiful freedom to be a complex, complicated human being who both overcomes challenges and makes mistakes, who can be joyful and angry and every other emotion there is, with no pressure to be anyone but herself. She’s no hero – she’s something much more magical and mundane: a little girl, full of untold potential, just like her sister.”

Orsborn’s message is exactly what parents faced with a diagnosis of Spina Bifida need to hear. Your child is a precious, precious girl or boy – full of untold potential. Yes, defects are a part of life, but they are not all of life.

Just as people are not solely their skin or hair color, their gender, their learning abilities, their fingernails, or their brain, they are also not their defect.

For real-life stories and the modern medicine benefiting people with Spina Bifida:

Note: Some Spina Bifida resources still suggest abortion as an option. We at Live Action News do not believe that abortion is an option. We believe that every baby – defect or not – is equal, valuable, and deserving of life. We hope that every parent chooses life for every child, and we believe in the strength given to parents. We also hope that if parents believe they cannot raise a child on their own, that they realize how many people are willing to adopt any child – including those with special needs – and that they seek out these people.

LifeNews Note:  Kristi Burton Brown is a pro-life activist in her home state of Colorado, a pro-bono attorney for Life Legal Defense Fund, and a stay-at-home mom. This column originally appeared at LiveActionNews.