Letter to Woman Who Told Unborn Baby I’m Aborting You Tomorrow: Please Choose Life

National   |   Steven Ertelt   |   Oct 16, 2014   |   2:54PM   |   Washington, DC

A popular pro-life blogger has written a tender and encouraging letter to a social media user on Reddit who posted a heart-wrenching open letter to her unborn child saying she plans to get an abortion tomorrow because she is just not ready to become a mother.

In the letter, the Reddit user says she is both “sorry and not sorry” over her decision to abort her baby and added that she doesn’t understand why she doesn’t feel the excitement about her baby that expectant moms are supposed to feel.

ultrasound4d44Ultimately, the woman says she just isn’t prepared to bring a baby into the world, though she has already done so, because she can’t yet provide her baby with all of the material things she was fortunate to have growing up.

“I can’t bring you here. Not like this,” she concludes.

In his letter, Matt Walsh encourages the mother to find life-affirming alternatives. Here’s an excerpt from it.

Dear Friend,

I read your letter.

It was to the unborn child you plan to abort tomorrow. You posted this note anonymously on Reddit for the world to see, so I can’t be sure that you even exist or that your letter was sincere. This could be some kind of sick joke. You could be a pro-choice propagandist, fabricating another story to help get rid of the ‘taboo’ surrounding infanticide. I don’t know. But I’m going to assume, right now, that this is all legitimate. I’m going to speak to you like you are real, like you are really planning to do this, because whether you are or not, everything I’ll say to you also applies to any woman in the same position.

I tried my best over the past week to figure out a way to contact you personally. I guess that was a futile effort to begin with. You didn’t post your name or contact information, which makes sense. The good folks at Reddit are apparently deleting any responses on your thread that don’t consist entirely of “congrats” and “atta girl,” so I couldn’t reach out to you that way, either. I’m left with this as my only option.

I felt the sadness and hesitation in your words. The fact that you published it in the first place proves that you are not completely sure about what you are planning to do. I think you want to be talked up or talked down. You want to hear what people have to say about it, which is the only reason anyone ever posts personal things on the internet.

I felt the uneasiness.

I felt the sense of loss.

I felt the desperation.

And I felt the love.

I did. I really did.

You love your child. You want your child to be happy. You said that yourself, and I believe you.

But this is not the way, friend. This is not the way.

Who am I to say this to you? Nobody, really. I’m nobody. I’m nothing. But your child is someone. You child is something. Your child is real and he is here and he is itching to meet you and thank you for giving him life. A life that he will only have once and never again.

If you want your baby to have what you didn’t have and feel the joy that you never felt, now is the time to hand him that gift. Now is the only time. There will not be another. You said that you cannot be the baby’s mother right now, but you are the baby’s mother right now. There is only now, friend, and this is a moment that will never be repeated. You can choose death or choose life, but there will not be a redo or a second chance. This is it. This is everything.

You can have other kids, but you will never have this one again. This one, with her vast potential and incredible promise. She is here now, she is living now, and there is a place in this world for her.

I mentioned your story on Facebook last week and asked if any of my Facebook friends could offer resources to help you. Well, they gave more than that. Numerous people came forward offering to adopt your child. These are real people who are eager to open up their homes and their hearts to your beautiful little one. If you email me ([email protected]), I can put you in touch with them.

Otherwise, there are hundreds of wonderful organizations out there that will help you make an adoption plan for your child. I don’t know where you live or which organization you would prefer, but I plugged “place a child for adoption” into Google and instantly found dozens of great options.

Maybe you can tell that I’m not an expert when it comes to dealing with women in the midst of crisis pregnancies. I might be saying and doing all of the wrong things here. I don’t know. Luckily, there are people out there who are far better equipped. Check out this link with contact information for various pregnancy centers that are dedicated to providing necessary services to women in your situation. There is help out there. You don’t have to go through this alone. Check these links. Send me an email. If you’re worried about maternity expenses, there are people and charities who can help you with that.

An abortion clinic will take your child’s life and kick you out the door. But pregnancy centers and Christian charities will walk with you, step by step, and never leave your side. There are tons of places like that, but here’s a good place to start.

I don’t expect to convince you with this letter. I only want to give you a few things to consider. So rather than showing up for your appointment at the clinic tomorrow, hold off. Step back. Go for a walk. Take a drive.

Think about the future.

Think about your little one.

There is still time to change your mind.

You still have a choice.

Please, give your child a chance. Choose life.


A fellow parent