Their Mothers Had Abortions to Further Their Careers, Now They’re Haunted by Missing Siblings

Opinion   |   Maria Vitale Gallagher   |   Sep 2, 2014   |   12:24PM   |   Washington, DC

Imagine this scenario:  a woman who graduated from college with top honors finds herself struggling when it comes to climbing the corporate ladder.She feels uncomfortable at work, failing to delegate when appropriate, feeling as if the weight of the entire company is on her overburdened shoulders.

The source of the problem could be found in her original family—in particular, the children who are missing.

This insight is being shared not just by pro-life advocates, but by life coaches, whose business it is to empower women and men to reach their full potential. In the fall edition of Porter magazine, a life coach notes that a woman inherits her family’s emotions—and that can be influenced by losses caused by abortion, miscarriages, and the adopting out of children.

sadwoman12The article suggests that all important self-talk—the things a woman says to herself—can be influenced by the fact that children are missing in the family of origin.  Fortunately, once women recognize this fact, they can deal with the loss and stop putting the brakes on their professional life.

And now, for my own take:

The abortion industry wants us to believe that abortion has no ill-effects on a mother and any subsequent children she might have. Abortion advocates even go so far as to portray abortion as a positive event in a woman’s life.

But the missing child effect is just one example of the difficulties abortion can cause. While it may be true that miscarriages and placing children for adoption can have a similar effect, elective abortion is a significantly different event. A miscarriage is an unforeseen tragedy, and adoption can be an empowering parenting choice.  (Also, if a woman’s life is at risk, and the baby dies as a physician attempts to treat both mother and child, no “choice” has been made.)

Try as they might to paint abortion as a routine event, the evidence suggests that abortion advocates are terribly misguided. Abortion is also never an isolated occurrence. For its effects can create an earthquake beneath the family tree, severing some branches and bending others to the point of breakage.

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How sad that a woman in the prime of life and at the precipice of a brilliant career could find herself immobilized by the pain of a missing sibling—the sister(s) or brother(s) who would have completed the family. The sister who could have been her confidant—or the brother who could have provided trusted advice. She struggles through life trying to satiate a thirst that cannot be quenched…attempting to complete a broken family circle.

Denial of the problem keeps our culture entrapped. Only through recognition of the collateral damage caused by abortion can we begin to heal. Note: Maria Vitale is an opinion columnist for She is the Legislative Director for the Pennsylvania Pro-Life Federation and Vitale has written and reported for various broadcast and print media outlets, including National Public Radio, CBS Radio, and AP Radio.