Lindsey and her husband Tim decided to have another child when Lindsey was 39 years old because they felt like their family was not complete. They welcomed their daughter, Caroline, on August 30th, 2002. While Lindsey’s pregnancy was normal, after her daughter was born, she suffered from a uterine rupture and was immediately rushed into emergency surgery.
However, before she went into surgery she said to the nurses and anesthesiologists, “Please take care of me, I have five children now.” Little did she know, but those words would be the last she would speak for nearly three months. During the broadcast, President of Focus on Family, Jim Daly, pointed out that even though Lindsey was in desperate peril, her response displayed the dedication and love of a selfless mother.
Due to her uterine rupture, Lindsey lost two and a half times the amount of blood that was in her body and was in poor physical condition. Later on that night she had to have a second surgery, and at one point, a nurse came out to the waiting room to ask Lindsey’s husband if her mother was there because of the severity of her complications.
Unfortunately, Lindsey’s health continued to regress and doctors had to put her into a medically induced coma. She developed acute respiratory distress syndrome and needed time for her lungs and her brain to heal. She also needed a ventilator to breath and was taking in nourishment from a feeding tube.
It was only two weeks after Lindsey’s post-birth complication that doctors told her family that they didn’t think she would make it. They encouraged them to prepare for her death and have relatives come to say their goodbyes. This is when Lindsey’s husband had to begin grappling with his end of life beliefs and decide whether or not he would sign “do not resuscitate” (DNR) papers. Initially, Tim signed the papers but rescinded it shortly after.
Remarkably, Lindsey did pull through and eventually woke up from her coma almost three months later. Now, she shares her story of survival and the gift of her daughter to her family. Additionally, she writes about end of life controversies, such as the highly publicized so-called Right to Die case of Terri Schiavo.