Does Pursuit of “Perfection” Yield a Society Where Babies With Cleft Lips are Aborted?

Opinion   |   Cassy Fiano   |   Jan 9, 2014   |   11:02AM   |   Washington, DC

We are living in a society that is obsessed with perfection.

Case in point: a bullied teenager wanted several plastic surgeries because she was being teased about her looks. But her mother couldn’t afford it. So how was this possible? Well, she received a grant from a nonprofit organization in New York City that provides free plastic surgery for children with deformities. That’s right: things like a big nose now evidently make you deformed.

Renata had been taunted so cruelly over her appearance that she stopped attending school altogether; she’s been home-schooled for the last three years.

“They were just calling me ‘that girl with the big nose,’” Renata told NBC News. “It just really hurts. And you can’t get over it.”

… The organization’s intent hasn’t changed since its inception: correcting low-income children’s facial deformities, such as a cleft lip, or facial palsy, says Romo. If a child seeks the gratis surgery simply because he’s being teased over his features, he won’t be chosen unless the problem meets the medical definition of a facial deformity.

… Romo believes that once the deformity is gone, the bullying will likely stop, too.

Renata was diagnosed by the foundation, Little Baby Face, as having hemi-facial microsomia. So she got a nose job and, for good measure, a chin implant. Another notorious case involved a girl, Nadia Ilse, whose ears were too big and thus, pinned back. Ilse was also granted a nose job and a chin job, because apparently, it wasn’t just her ears that were “deformed.” These somehow are considered deformities. Meanwhile, a teenage boy, also being bullied, who had a small chin applied to the foundation, but was declined because a small chin is considered cosmetic, and not a deformity. But big ears and a left-leaning nose, however, evidently qualify.

These cases are disturbing on multiple levels. Some of the cases the foundation takes on are certainly noble and worthwhile, such as repairing a child’s cleft lip or palate, or hearing restoration. But what does it say when we are evidently now telling bullied teenage girls with imperfect noses or big ears that not only are you “ugly”, but you’re actually deformed? Renata, for instance, had a mother who, instead of telling her that she was beautiful the way she was, agreed with the bullies and arranged for her to undergo multiple plastic surgeries. This foundation, in accepting multiple children who are victims of bullying because of their looks, is also agreeing with the bullies: yes, you are hideous; yes, you are deformed. Only plastic surgery will make you look normal and be confident and happy.

We are putting an unhealthy burden of perfection onto the shoulders of our children. Is it any wonder that children have eating disorders?



And when we expect such perfection out of our children, is it any wonder that any baby who might possibly fall short of such perfection is then abortion? In the UK, for example, disturbingly high numbers of babies with cleft lips or palates and club feet are aborted. Many times, mothers whose babies are prenatally diagnosed with a disability like Down syndrome are pressured to have an abortion. And remember the family that, after being unable to conceive a child on their own, tried to pay their surrogate mother $10,000 to abort their unborn child over disability? It is a disturbing portrait of our society today and the lack of value we have for life. Rather than saying all children are beautiful and valuable and perfect as they are, we are saying that if you’re deemed to be ugly you need major plastic surgery to be beautiful, and that if you have a disability, you don’t deserve to live at all.

Will there ever come a day that we can love and accept our children as they are? One can only hope.

LifeNews Note: Cassy Fiano is a twenty-something Florida native now living in Jacksonville, North Carolina who writes at a number of conservative web sites. She got her start in journalism at the Florida Times-Union. She is the mother of two sons, one of whom was diagnosed with Down Syndrome. This originally appeared at Live Action News.