Dear Abby Defends Mom Buying Condoms for Her Teen Daughter and Her Friends

National   |   Lauren Enriquez   |   Oct 17, 2013   |   11:13AM   |   Washington, DC

A Dear Abby column this week featured a concerned mom who had learned that the condoms she was buying for her 17-year-old daughter were being given to her daughter’s friends.

The mom, who was proud that her daughter felt comfortable enough to confide in her, was concerned about the price of supplying multiple sexually-active teenagers with condoms, but alas, she considered that perhaps this expense was worthwhile “if I can help to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.” The question, from “Safe Sex Advocate in Iliinois,” went like this:

DEAR ABBY: My 17-year-old daughter confided that she has become sexually involved with her boyfriend and asked if I would buy condoms for her. I agreed that she should protect herself and bought her a box of 12.

A week later, she informed me that she needed another 12-pack. When I asked why she had run out so quickly, she confessed that she has been supplying them to her girlfriends. Apparently they can’t confide in their moms the way she can with me.

My dilemma is that condoms are expensive and, on one hand, I don’t want to be the one supplying a group of kids. On the other hand, if I can help to prevent an unwanted pregnancy, maybe it’s worth it. What do you think I should do? — Safe Sex Advocate in Illinois

How do you think dear old Abby responded? Basically, she broadcasted a free advertisement for Planned Parenthood. Here’s how it went:

DEAR SAFE SEX ADVOCATE: If your daughter’s friends are old enough to be sexually active, they and their boyfriends should also be responsible enough to provide their own birth control. Generally, teens do not need the permission of their parents to receive information about it. Because you want to help them avoid unwanted pregnancies (as well as STDs), direct them to the nearest Planned Parenthood Center for low-cost or no-cost birth control and instruction on how to use it. There are 18 of these health centers in Illinois. To find the one closest to you, go to

A few reasons why referring vulnerable teens to Planned Parenthood may not have been Abby’s brightest moment:

-Planned Parenthood makes a lot of money off of sexually active teens who do become pregnant and pursue abortion.

The Washington Times:”… abortion continues to account for the overwhelming majority of Planned Parenthood’s services for pregnant women, making up 92 percent of the organization’s pregnancy services.”



-Planned Parenthood helps to keep parents out of the reproductive health choices of their daughters by encouraging girls to seek judicial bypass in regions where parental consent is required before an abortion is performed on a minor. That means Planned Parenthood wants to help your daughter procure an abortion – and profit off the price tag from whomever is paying for it – without your knowledge or consent.  Planned Parenthood markets itself as pro-parent, but when parents get in the way of profits, they hit the bottom of the totem pole.

-Planned Parenthood has been caught failing to report sexual abuses on underage girls (like those to whom condoms were being provided by the mom above). No loving parent – especially not the type of concerned mother who wrote to Abby – wants their daughter to go through the type of anguish (like statutory rape) which Planned Parenthood has been documented perpetuating on minor girls.

Planned Parenthood is undoubtedly grateful for Abby’s free commercial, but if the concerned mom knew the facts about Planned Parenthood that Abby forgot to mention, maybe she would think twice before sending minors to them.