Abortion Hurts Mothers Too, They Are Second Victims

Opinion   |   Stacie Kuhns   |   Feb 19, 2013   |   7:03PM   |   Washington, DC

I wrote an article Friday afternoon about a woman who was killed due to a botched late-term abortion procedure by LeRoy Carhart, and I found something interesting afterward. Even though the post was focused mainly on this woman and the hypocrisy of the mainstream media, we received many more comments grieving the loss of her 33-week-old baby than we did grieving the life of the mother or both.

It’s a well-known accusation of the pro-life community that we “don’t care about women,” or that we are too focused on the babies not the mothers, and only care that a baby is born not what happens to it afterward. I’ve always thought these claims were as outlandish and misleading as any other from radical abortion supporters. After my post I began to think; maybe there is a reason some people think that.

My concluding paragraph in the article was succinct to express why I, myself am pro-life. “Every life matters. Every person is vital. Every woman is perfectly created by God and worthy of love, deserving of the utmost protection and care. It is a tragedy when any woman dies in the care of a physician, Savita Halappanavar, a 29 year-old mother, and every single one of the thousands of women who die at the hands of physicians every day inside their mother’s womb.”

The grief of the death of the child in an abortion is a gateway into the unfathomable depth of God’s heart on the matter. If we only grieve for the babies we are denying not only a piece of His heart, but because of it, we are lacking in our intercession. Intercession is not just prayer, it is prayer from a place of understanding, reality and desperation that we have received from the heart of God. If we’ve only experienced the grief of his heart concerning the death of the children and their destinies, when we pray for the broken hearts of the mothers, we may not feel anything; we may not even mean what we pray or believe that it will be done.

James 1:5-7 says, “ If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.”

Only when we meet God in prayer asking again, and again “what do you think about abortion” and “how do you feel about abortion” do we really have faith that our prayers will be answered. How can we ask believing something will be done if we’re not sure the person we’re asking wants to do it?



If every mother considering abortion received a spirit of wisdom and revelation concerning the life growing inside of them and the value of that life, legal abortion would end in one day. There would be an outcry that could not be silenced and a grieving that would bring a whole nation to it’s knees. When we remember the babies, let us not forget the mothers.

LifeNews brought us more information about the woman who died last Thursday. This is Jennifer Leigh Morbelli. She was 29 when she died because late-term abortionist Leroy Carhart botched her procedure and was not available to give her assistance when she needed it. She was from White Plains, New York where she was a kindergarten teacher. Her child was a precious baby girl named Madison Leigh. Approximately two weeks ago, Jennifer learned that her baby had as of yet unnamed abnormalities. Who knows how many people counseled her to abort her baby. Who knows how many people told her, “You won’t be able to cope with a child with disabilities; you’re not strong enough.”
I don’t know, but I know mothers of children with disabilities and the inextinguishable flame of love in a mothers heart. I can only imagine her last hours were spent in tormenting regret and fear.

When we pray for the babies, let us not forget the mothers.

LifeNews: Stacie is a missionary with the Justice House of Prayer in Washington, DC. Reprinted with permission from Bound4Life.