British Advice Columnist "Flirt Diva" Ignores Abortion’s Bad Effect on Relationships

International   |   Steven Ertelt   |   Feb 12, 2009   |   9:00AM   |   WASHINGTON, DC

British Advice Columnist "Flirt Diva" Ignores Abortion’s Bad Effect on Relationships

by Steven Ertelt Editor
February 12
, 2009

London, England ( — Yet another British advice columnist is playing down negative effects resulting from an abortion and this time the culprit is Sue Ostler. Known as the Flirt Diva in the London Metro newspaper, Ostler joins Dear Deidre and Bel Mooney in including a pro-abortion agenda in their columns.

An anonymous writer tells Ostler about her abortion.

"I’ve known my current boyfriend for over six years although we only got together a year ago. Ten months ago I found out I was pregnant, and since we weren’t ready, we decided an abortion would be the best thing," the writer says.

"He was incredibly supportive and nothing seemed to be wrong, but shortly after the procedure things began to grow cold between us," the author adds.

The writer talks the withering of her relationship with her partner, one of the many adverse effects from having an abortion and one that doesn’t receive much attention.

"I still love him as I have always done, but something has changed in him," the writer says, adding that their physical relationship has suffered since the abortion.

"He seems to have lost all interest in me both sexually and emotionally since the abortion. I’m desperately trying to get over my feelings for him to make it easier if we part, but I don’t really want to lose him deep down," the writer concludes.

The Flirt Diva admits that the woman’s boyfriend is likely "massively depressed" but makes no mention of the abortion as the likely cause of the relationship friction of his depression.

Ostler suggests seeing a counselor — but makes no mention of either party seeking post-abortion help or spiritual guidance — and then quickly dismisses the idea saying "something tells me he won’t be into it."

Instead of providing the post-abortion woman the helps she needs, Ostler just urges her to end the relationship and move on.

"I think you’re past the point of no return. You’re already referring to what you ‘had’ in past tense," she writes. "So in terms of trying to get over your feelings for him, I’d say you’ve been successful, in other words, lady, you are ready to move on. And do you know what? I’d say it’s for the best."

A study published in December by researchers from the University of Queensland in the British Journal of Psychiatry found abortion causes relationship problems.

Dr. Priscilla Coleman, a professor of Human Development and Family Studies at Bowling Green State University talked with about the results.

"Based on the methodological strengths of the Australian study, the results provide strong evidence that the risk of psychological problems associated with abortion is at least as powerful as the risk for problems post-miscarriage," she said.

"For some of the mental health outcomes measured, abortion was actually a stronger predictor of problems than miscarriage indicating that it is not simply the loss of the pregnancy that elevates risk, but other yet to be studied mechanisms such as guilt, compromised self-esteem, anger, or relationship problems may be operative," Dr. Coleman added.

ACTION: Send your comments to Sue Ostler at [email protected]

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