by Jill Stanek
November 9, 2005
LifeNews.com Note: Jill Stanek fought to stop "live birth abortions" after witnessing one as an RN at Christ Hospital in Oak Lawn, Illinois. Her speaking out led to the Born Alive Infants Protection Act legislation, signed by President Bush, that would ensure that proper medical care be given to unborn children who survive botched abortion attempts.
Imagine giving men the same “reproductive rights” as women: the freedom to terminate fatherhood at any time during a partner's pregnancy, and corresponding with baby abandonment laws, up to one year after delivery.
But it doesn't work like that. In fact, legalized abortion works oppositely. Roe v. Wade established a “reproductive rights” sisterhood dictatorship, where mothers have total decision-making power to either transport progeny into the world or kill them. Fathers are forced to stand by absolutely irrelevantly.
Judge Alito was on to something when in Planned Parenthood v. Casey he agreed that married women should notify their husbands if planning to abort their baby.
That said, most unmarried men appear to be bully on and often bully for abortion. Polls repeatedly show, as Heritage Foundation detailed after evaluating 12 years of them, that “[m]en were more supportive of abortion rights under non-extreme circumstances (no endangered health, deformities, or rate) than were women. Single men were far and away the most supportive.”
And why not? Why pay a prostitute when you don't have to?
The truth is many men have adapted Roe v. Wade into Moe v. Wade an excuse to behave badly without consequences. “It's her body” sure comes in handy sometimes.
But strangely, even those fathers who have lost the instinct to protect their own children from being killed by abortion are so because of abortion. Abortion deadens one of the characteristics that makes a man a man: the will to create, protect, and provide for his family.
This phenomenon was described by aborting father Charles in the article, “Sexual Dysfunction Related to Induced Abortion“:
After the abortion, [girlfriend] Suzy was immediately better. But we were conscious we had killed something, or rather not let something live. We decided it was much more of a moral dilemma than we had realized.. Suddenly I felt emasculated. It was important for me to take the leadership role, and I couldn't with her. Suddenly I lost all desire for her and became impotent.. Later we broke up for good. The abortion tore at the fabric of our relationship.. With men, I think, there's a confusion between potency and virility. At least I feel more manly for having made a baby. But I still have the residual feeling of having killed something, a life that was already impinging on mine. I've never resolved it.
A 19-year-old didn't quite understand he was experiencing similar feelings while accompanying his former girlfriend for her abortion, as described by an abortion provider on her blog:
[Raymond] had talked to a relative on his cell phone who agreed with him that he was not ready to be a dad, but it was still a difficult and emotional decision for him …
I said, “Any questions or things you want to say?” “Well,” he stammered, “What, uh, do you, uh, do, uh, with it?” “Good question,” I answered. “We cremate burn it.” He nodded, and asked, “Well, this is going to sound really crazy, but, uh, could I …” “See it?” I prompted. “Yes, with her permission if you want to see it, either of you can. In fact if you want to put something in with it a note, a flower, whatever, you can” …
We wash it off, rinse off any blood or clots and float it in water that helps to distinguish the placental tissue from the decidual tissue …
I showed [the 9-week-old fetus] to Raymond separately, and he was quite agitated and teary, but he kept saying, “Thank you for showing it to me.” We talked a bit about what he could take away from this experience, and I told him he would be a great dad when the time came, and I meant it, he was so open and sweet. He said, “I thought it would be so easy, but it's not.” Then he said, “Wait a minute. Can you wait for me?” He ran outside and got a flower and put part of it in with the fetus and said, “This part stays with me. I will always keep it.” Then he crossed himself and kissed his fingers goodbye …
It's hard to read stories such as these. The more I learn about abortion, the more overwhelmed I am at the enormity of its destruction.
Yet the silence of men is deafening.
Why? Aside from the fact that men avoid discussing feelings publicly, most abortions are the result of promiscuous sex. While sex with abandon is promoted these days as normal, men know deep inside what their mamas would say if told: “You should have kept your zipper zipped.”
They know mama would be right.