Abortion can be a life-changing decision for many women, but it’s always a life-ending one for their babies.
Some women choose to deny that abortion has affected any lives, however. Brianne Cain, of Clifton, Ohio, is one of them.
“I don’t think about the decision to have the abortion as this life-altering decision,” Cain told The Cincinnati Inquirer, which recently published a series about women’s abortion experiences. “I think the decision to have a child would have been the life-altering decision.”
Cain had just graduated from high school when she discovered that she was pregnant for the first time. She and her boyfriend had been using birth control but inconsistently, she said.
“There was something inside of me that I didn’t want and that was in conflict with how I wanted my life to be,” she said. “The decision was already made when I saw the (pregnancy) test.”
Her story continues:
Her boyfriend came to the Clifton apartment she shared with her dad, heard the news, and walked out.
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Cain says she felt pain and guilt from having become pregnant in the first place. She felt alone, unable to tell most of her friends and family because, she says, of the controversy surrounding abortion. Overwhelmed, she stayed in bed for the next three days.
She knew she wasn’t ready to be a mom or to go through nine months of pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption. She already had used drugs during the pregnancy and was a heavy drinker. She wasn’t sure she’d be able to stop.
She made the appointment, panicking over how she’d foot the $800 bill for the abortion with her minimum-wage job.
Cain said she noticed that abortion wasn’t an easy decision for other young women at the abortion clinic, but she felt “confident” about her decision.
Her boyfriend, Omar Mills, was open to being a parent but left the decision up to her. He said he sometimes wonders what it would have been like to be a father.
A year later, after getting back together with Mills, Cain got pregnant again. She was still living with her dad, working a low-paying job and drinking heavily, she said. Cain decided to have a second abortion – with no regrets, she said.
“It allowed me to continue my life,” Cain, now 28, told the newspaper. “I want to be a parent, but I want to plan it. … Be excited about it. If I’m never ready to have kids, if I never feel comfortable doing that, then I won’t.”
The problem is, Cain did have children. She was the parent of two unborn babies, but she aborted them. Cain’s life continues, but her babies’ lives are gone.
Like Cain, many women face unplanned pregnancies (studies estimate about half of all pregnancies in the U.S. are unplanned); but they recognize the value of their unborn child and choose life. Through the help of pro-life pregnancy resource centers across the U.S., more families are being empowered with the resources and support to choose life for their babies.
A young Pittsburgh woman’s story is a stark contrast to Cain’s. Though both young women faced similar situations, the young girl from Pennsylvania chose life after receiving help from a pro-life pregnancy center, LifeNews previously reported.
“Kathy” originally planned to abort her unborn baby. Her father had abandoned her family, and her mother struggled to put food on the table. When she searched online for abortion information, she discovered a pregnancy resource center instead.
“… the woman I spoke with was kind, interested, and honest. For the first time in days, I felt a glimmer of hope,” Kathy recalled.
When Kathy saw her unborn baby girl on an ultrasound screen, the young woman abandoned all thoughts of abortion and chose life. Several months later, she gave birth to a baby girl and named her Mallory.
“Mallory brings so much joy to everyone,” her young mother said. “I could not imagine life without her.”